This is an excellent Book!!!
REVIEWS FOR RAINBOWS BUT NOT UNICORNS: MY ADOPTION TRUTH
Apr 26, 2016Reading “Rainbow But Not Unicorns” turned my inner world upside down. As a white adoptive parent to two TRA daughters (Guatemala and China), I had had some training on the challenges of having two non-white children in my household. Reading RBNU gave me a whole new understanding of the world of a TRA child, not only from the perspective of loss of birth family, but loss of a culture, loss of having a family that looks like the child. My daughters see a white mom and white mirrors in media and at school and everywhere. Mae Lynn provides hard hitting testimony to being raise by “well meaning” white parents, and the irrevocable damage caused by narcissistic adoptive mother and passive father. Add feeling “othered” by being a different race, she paints the powerful picture of isolation and fear that comes with being a black child with white missionary adoptive parents. In reading this book, I was pushed into the reality that non-white children need racial mirrors, need me to embrace their perspectives and provide to them an empowered base to help them fully embrace their childhoods as TRA kids. Thank you for raw and revealing testimony of your childhood, Mae. It is transformative.
Apr 23, 2016I was given the opportunity to read this book before publication. Mae Claire’s adoption story is complicated and raw. This book gives you a glimpse into her story as a transracially adopted child who grows into adulthood. Her reflections are heartbreaking but she is a woman with courage and resolve.
Apr 17, 2016Mae has written a book that can be read all in one sitting, or in pieces by chapter. It’s a book that you’ll want to read multiple times over. “Don’t create trauma where it doesn’t belong.” It’s an idea that sounds simple, yet it is too often overlooked. Mae speaks her truth – reaching out to adoptive parents with kindness. She reveals that while unicorns don’t exist, with openness, honesty, and listening (rather than invalidating), adoption can have rainbows. But the rainbows aren’t everything – and she doesn’t give you a how-to for reaching that point. Instead, you listen to her truth, her faith, and you start to realize that rainbows can come in many forms, or they may not come at all. She makes space for critical thought – and a beautiful glimpse into the mind of an adoptee.
Apr 13, 2016This book achieves two important goals. #1 Provides a grippingly honest account of the author’s experiences growing up adopted. #2 Provides the reader with insight as to how they (as adoptive parents) can better nurture and honor their child’s experiences as they process their adoption.
Apr 1, 2016Written by an adoptee about her experience growing up without answers about her past and with a controlling adoptive mother who failed her child in many ways, this book touches on points that those who have adopted or are considering adoption need to hear. It isn’t a comfortable read. It won’t make you feel warm and cuddly. But you need to read it.
Mar 29, 2016Most adoptive parents tend to read books by other adoptive parents. This is a real disservice to their children. What we (and anyone interested in adoption, especially transracial adoption) need is to listen to the experiences of adult adoptees. May Claire’s book is a collection of heartfelt poignant essays describing her experiences growing up as a transracial adoption adoptee. A Black woman in a white family. Her writing is searingly honest and has taught me so much about The experience of a transracial adoption day. She offers a lot of factual information as well about adoption and the difficulties that ensue if you do not obtain citizenship for your child. She disabuses us of the belief that adoption is all rainbows and unicorns, the common myth among the adoption world. She has the wisdom that should not be ignored. I highly recommend this book
Mayte C July 11th 2016
- Just finished reading your book. I had my almost 10 yrs old daughter next to me when reading the chapter… How does it feel being adopted… I read it to her… ‘It feels wonderful, it feels horrible, it feels sad….’ And she said…. She is spot on!There is this feeling of sadness, frustration and anger that takes over me at the thought of someone having to go through with a life as an adoptee, to then write about it so I can learn to better parent my child…
Just want to thank you for your generosity at sharing your life… It must have been very hard to open up like that and let everyone in. Thank you!
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