This will never be fixed

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Adoptive Parents, please read this transaction between my biological brother and I. This is what happens when you take us away from the family we always knew. We can NEVER go back and fix this.
Today
Me: so, you just stop talking to me?
8:44AM
Him: It’s been 7 years since im trying and it did not work
So i cant anymore
Me: Ok
but remember, i’m the one who was adopted
Him: I’m so sorry
ME: I’m sorry you feel this way
I could not try 7 years because I did not know about you guys
i was told you guys had died
so you blame me
you think i’m the problem
You don’t understand my position
because you choose not to
you expect me to just embrace you, like nothing happened
I know now who my family is…i know you tried for 7 years
but I didn’t know who I was because that was all taken from me when I was a baby
but you can’t blame me for something that was not my fault
If you choose not to at least begin to understand this, then maybe you are not the person I need to be in contact with.
Him: Yeah i understand
When i met my aunt in Randolf, I felt that she at least cared enough to listen and to understand
she didn’t judge me
and she didn’t make me feel that I did anything wrong
She embraced me
and understands that the life I lived was not one that I chose.
Adoption and my life is not about you AND IT HAS NEVER BEEN about you.
You want unity…you want to meet, you want a family relationship? Good…I want all of that too…but it is on MY time, not on yours.
you were not the one who was taken from their parents and raised by strangers. Adoption is NEVER a good thing and even though you have this idea that it was, it is not.
So, it is up to you
you can choose to blame me, that is fine, but I will shut you out because you say you understand but really, you don’t.
Or you can choose to embrace the uniqueness that is this life. Getting to know you and the rest of my family will be on MY TERMS not on yours. And if you don’t like that, and you think i’m being a bitch…or that I don’t want to get to know you guys, then that is fine. You can do your own thing. But I will get to know everyone from my family on MY TIME. NOT on your time. Adoption changed ME….not you.
I wish you the best in your life
Him: Thank you
I HAVE SINCE BLOCKED HIM FROM FACEBOOK. I CAN’T DEAL WITH THIS SHIT. ADOPTIVE PARENTS STOP DOING THIS TO YOUR KIDS. JUST STOP IT RIGHT FUCKING NOW!!!
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